7 Phrases a Husband Uses When He Can't Be Trusted, According to Psychology

One day your husband starts saying things that make you question what he’s hiding. Insecurity has sneaked into your love life, hiding behind a subtle expression that he now uses regularly.

When trust is questioned, the relationship begins to erode. When your relationship begins to erode due to infidelity, you seek out more lies, half-truths, and hidden information. The more you look, the more scams you will find. The relationship spirals.

Here are seven phrases a husband uses when he is not trusted:

1. “Not tonight”

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If he is not interested in physical intimacy with his wife, this is usually a sign that something is up. research suggests Ami RokachDoctorate.. This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s in a relationship. But he may be hiding an addictive behavior or medical problem.

— Jennifer HargraveOwner and Managing Attorney, Hargrave Family Law

2. “I, I, I!”

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This kind of guys They are incredibly selfish egomaniacs. He is completely obsessed with himself and his image, and it’s always about him; It’s never about you.

He will constantly talk about himself and give you little time to talk. Your role is to make him feel good and not bore him with the smallest details of your life. study published by Science One Journal Public Library.

He also lacks empathy and will not stop for a moment to ask himself how his actions affect you. Worse, they will criticize you and embarrass you in public.

— Randy SkiltonTrainer

3. “Don’t touch my phone”

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They’re starting to close the windows Immediately or angrily when you approach them while they are talking on their phone or device A study conducted by Professor Vera Lopez in 2017 shows this. But be careful about this, because some people are more private than others and there may be nothing to worry about.

— C. Mellie SmithWriter

4. “I didn’t say that”

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When you ask them something, their stories change, become meaningless or you stone wall. This is a classic. People who lie to you (or set you up for betrayal) can’t stick to a story. As a result, they get stuck in their lies. In the 2022 research, Daniel H. Wood investigates How people who lie keep things vague or include too much detail in their stories.

If they don’t answer the question, they will usually block you or start a fight to distract you from the topic. Be prepared to see them change the subject when they start to stir things up. Pro tip: Gaslighting is a form from this. They are trying to change your idea of reality to align with what they want to do.

— Ossiana TepfenhartWriter

5. “I don’t remember doing this”

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deceptive people they often claim a lack of memory as a way to cover up the truth. This defense sets two traps for liars:

First of all, you need to have a memory of that event so that you do not remember what you did. By definition, in order not to remember something, you must first have the information stored in your memory. Memory deficiency indicates that memory is stored in the brain but the person is unable to retrieve it.

Honest people usually answer, “I don’t know.” Memory deficit indicates that the person is unable to retrieve a memory and therefore does not know what happened. Honest people do their best to revive the memory of an event. Deceptive people do not want to reveal the information they remember for fear of the truth coming out.

The second trap is similar. A person cannot say “I don’t remember doing this” unless he remembers what he did. The word “this” indicates that the person does not remember performing a particular set of actions.

To say “I didn’t do that” one must know what one did. Logically, how can a person say they don’t remember doing something when they have no memory of the event? the word “it” suggests a memory of an event.

The questioner’s response to this gambit should be: “What do you remember doing?” Honest people will tell you that they remember what they did to back up their excuses. Journal of Behavioral and Brain Sciences gives evidence that dishonest people often hold on to their lack of memory, saying “I don’t know what I’m doing.”

— Jack Schafer, Ph.D.Professor and Author

6. “What are you trying to say?”

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If someone is lying to you and if you ask questions that threaten to expose a lie, misplaced anger is a possible response. Let’s say you asked your spouse why he works so late. If your partner is honest, it’s normal to talk about it calmly (and possibly talk a little about being too busy or being a jerk to the boss).

When the question is asked and your partner is not at work, the question becomes threatening. Professor Marcia Baron investigates How threatening because an honest answer could derail the relationship. Seemingly misplaced anger is not an uncommon response when people are asked threatening questions. An aggravated “Why don’t you believe me?” or “What are you trying to say?”

— Joshua MasonPublic Safety Leader

7. Nothing

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There is a growing silence when he speaks to other people in your presence who were not there before. When people don’t talk around you, there’s usually a reason. There may be things they don’t want you to know, things they want to discuss. Or You might be the subject of what they’re talking aboutand they don’t want you to overhear their conversation.

— Parthenia IzzardHealth Coach

Honesty is the foundation of a healthy marriage, and to have a nurturing and rewarding relationship, we must fully trust our partners. But people can be wrong and when they mess up they can hide it with a few words.

Being open and honest is vital to a sense of trust and stability, so be careful if he starts using such phrases regularly. The beginning of cheating is a warning sign for you to get real with him and find out what the truth is as soon as possible.

Will Curtis is a creator, editor, and activist who has spent the last decade working remotely.