I cheated on my fiancée with his brother and now I'm planning to switch grooms so my wedding can happen.

The 25-year-old woman admitted to cheating on her fiancée with his older brother and is now rethinking her upcoming wedding.

HE I met the brothers, Hugo, 26, and Michael, 28, were studying at secondary school when they were 13 years old.

The woman who cheated on her fiancée with his brother wants to cancel the weddingCredit: Getty

Michael was the first to flirt with her, even though he had a soft spot for both of them.

But the woman, who preferred to remain anonymous, thought Michael was “too old for her” and decided to pursue a relationship with Hugo instead.

Fast forward to today, and she has realized that she lost her feelings for Hugo “a long time ago.”

He admits that his infidelity was “the last step he needed to get to that realization.”

Young woman confused about what to do taken to reddit Seeking advice from others and asking people their opinions.

In a lengthy post, she wrote: “A quick story about how we met: I met Hugo and his brother in middle school when I was 13.

“I knew Michael before and got along much better with him.

“He was 16 and was flirting with me a lot but I told him he was too old for me.

“He was very upset about this, but later said that if I married his brother, I would still be part of the family.

“Hugo and Michael gave me their numbers and left it up to me to decide which one I wanted to know better.

I married my partner after 90 days and he immediately cheated on me – I didn’t know there were so many red flags

“I chose Hugo because there wasn’t a huge age difference between me and Michael, but I actually wanted Michael.

“So Hugo and I got to know each other better, met more often, and got together when I was 15 and he was 16.

“We had been in a relationship for years, but my heart was always with Michael.

“I postponed it because I didn’t want to hurt Hugo; he really does everything for me and i can feel how much he loves me.

We talked and eventually one thing led to another and we went to the toilet together.

Unnamed woman, 25

“I would meet Michael from time to time at Hugo’s house or at family gatherings, and this gave me the impression that he wanted me as much as I wanted him.

“Of course that wasn’t good at all and I know that. I lived this way for years and was so relieved when Hugo proposed to me in September last year.

“I thought I would just love Hugo now and forget about Michael, or that he wouldn’t be so present in my mind anymore. Wrong.

“Hugo and Michael’s aunt got married for the third time last week and the whole family was there, including Michael. That’s when it happened.

distance yourself

“Hugo talked to family members all evening and I was a bit lonely.

“But that was okay with me because I already knew everyone well and at that point I was getting a headache from the loud music.

“So I walked away from the revelers and of course met Michael.

“He wanted to keep me company and I accepted.

Michael and I want to be together and finally be happy after all these years

Unnamed woman, 25

“We talked and eventually one thing led to another and we went to the toilet together. By the way, we were both still sober when I cheated, so we really wanted this.

“As I write this I realize how awful everything is.

“After Michael and I had sexWe were both very shocked at first. I told him it wasn’t a mistake, it was exactly what I’d wanted for years.

“Michael confessed his love to me and told me how frustrating it was for him to know that his brother had been with the woman he loved for years.

Confessions

“Michael and I want to be together and finally be happy after all these years.

“I haven’t said anything to Hugo yet about my infidelity, and neither has Michael.

“Michael and I are now considering canceling the wedding and politely telling Hugo.

“I don’t want to leave him at the altar and say no in front of the whole family.

Four red flags that your partner is cheating

Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees has revealed four warning signs that your partner may be cheating.

They’re starting to take their phones with them everywhere

In close relationships, it is normal for them to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.

Aaron “If your partner starts changing their passwords, takes their phone with them everywhere, even around the house, or becomes defensive when you try to use their phone, it could be a sign that they’re not being faithful,” she says.

“You should also look at how they put their phone down when they’re not using it. If they’re looking at their phone with the screen facing down, they may be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

When your partner cheats on you, they may begin to avoid you, which may be because they feel guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner has suddenly started to pull away from you and no longer wants to do things with you or has stopped telling you about their day, that’s another red flag.”

“Partners often stay away from their partners or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, impossible to remember all your lies, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” Aaron says.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido may change for a variety of reasons, so this may not be a sure sign of cheating, but according to Aaron, it could be a red flag.

Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but sometimes they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating, so your partner will start to add new things to your sex life that weren’t there before.” “

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and it makes them feel good, which can cause tension and anxiety that they need to justify within themselves.

“To get rid of the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that the problem is yours and suddenly criticize you. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog, put away the dishes or read a book that day. A small problem like this can now seem like a big problem, and if you are experiencing this, your partner may be cheating on you.” ” Aaron warns.

“I’d like to save her from this humiliation. It’s bad enough that I cheated on her with her sister.”

“I finally realized that I hadn’t felt anything for Hugo for a long time. I don’t want to continue my life this way anymore. This isn’t fair to Hugo either.

“Now my question is: How can Michael and I explain this to Hugo? How do I tell Hugo that I love Michael?

“What should Michael and I do and what do we do about the wedding now? I don’t want to marry Hugo.

You and Michael are absolutely terrible people. You deserve everything that comes to you.

Reddit comment

“Can the wedding happen and can I marry Michael instead? Would something like this work?

“I’m pretty desperate right now because I want to end up with Michael, but I don’t want to cheat on Hugo again.”

Naturally, her post garnered a lot of attention, with many people flocking to the comments section to share their thoughts.

Many couldn’t believe she even thought about whether the wedding could happen.

Space

Others called him “stupid” for being in such a situation.

One wrote: “You and Michael are absolutely terrible people. You deserve everything that comes to you.

“Do you seriously think you can put her in Hugo’s place at the wedding and there will be no repercussions?

“I’d be surprised if anyone in the family even thought about you or Michael after this. I hope it was worth it because your relationship with Michael will crash and burn.

“He’s not as great a guy as you think, and you suck. You two scammers deserve each other.”

Another added: “You can’t ‘nicely’ tell Hugo that his fiancée is cheating on him with his brother.”

“This is the worst nightmare region and it will probably tear their families apart for a long time.”

A third said: “Then the Christmas family gathering is ruined.”

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